Don't.

Don't try to fix your past through me.

Don't try to gain opportunities you never had through me.

Don't fight your wars with him through me.

I want to do what makes me happy. And here's the thing::

I don't give a damn if you think it's academic or not, or if I'll ever be rich or not, or if marrying for love and love alone is foolishness. The decisions I make are mine. If they're wrong, let them be. I'll learn from them, because people make mistakes. Yes, opportunities may only come once - but my life only comes once too.

SO.

I will do whatever makes me happy. Go where I want to go. See what I want to see. Love whomever I choose. And if you don't like that, that's your problem because you're not doing or going or seeing or loving what where or who I am. So you deal with that.

The least you could do is pretend to be supportive.

If you can't even do that, then just fucking keep your mouth shut and don't bullshit about you not trying to make decisions for me.